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Real men cry: One man’s mission to redefine the term masculinity

An award-winning spoken word poet, poetry slam champion, speak and writer, Carlos Andrés Gómez also starred in Spike Lee's Inside Man
An award-winning spoken word poet, poetry slam champion, speak and writer, Carlos Andrés Gómez also starred in Spike Lee’s Inside Man
I had the pleasure of interviewing spoken word artist Carlos Andrés Gómez at the Ubud Writers & Readers Festival in October this year. Like most young boys, he was taught that a man needs to put up a fight and must never shed a tear. I wondered if all this talk of softening up a man’s hardened shell was bound to draw a heckler or two.

Gómez concurred, saying, “Sometimes, things get uncomfortable during my performances. It’s alright if people disagree with me, but it’s important that they hear me out and understand what I’m saying in the right context. We’re definitely going to need more such moments when two opinions collide because we can never have change if one opinion dominates. It’s going to take many an exchange, both of the courageous and uncomfortable kind.”

His is a story worth reading, so if you’d like to give the interview a proper read, head over to The Label by Louis Philippe. You’ll also find an excellent video link there that has Carlos talking about his very own ‘Man Up Moment’.

Here’s a link to the interview: http://thelabel.in/lifestyle/people/real-men-cry

9 Replies to “Real men cry: One man’s mission to redefine the term masculinity”

    1. Thanks for stopping by my blog too, Brad! And really glad you enjoyed the piece and the fact that many men like you are ‘unlearning’ all the rules they were made to follow. I hope you checked out the entire interview; the link’s in the blog post itself. Have a great day ahead!

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    1. Hi John, absolutely agree with you. Thankfully, as Carlos put it, there’s a growing movement of men that’s helping them to overcome or unlearn what they were taught,and this too, might play a big role in helping a young boy realise that it’s all right to just be friends with a girl, or for a man to look at a woman as a comrade — and to realise that women are not just meant to be dated or to have a sexual relationship with.

      Many thanks for stopping by my blog too!

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